Resolutions are wildly popular with some people, hated by others, and scoffed at by millions. Honestly – none of that matters. Since I can’t control the actions of others, why in the world should it matter if folks do or don’t follow through with their resolutions? Bottom line: their resolutions are not my issue. I have no business blowing off an opportunity to reflect on my own life simply because I’ve witnessed a lack of follow through by others. That’s just silliness looking for an excuse to yell “Screw the world!” Whatever. If you’re looking for an excuse, you’ll find one.
I tend to be a girl of reflection. As a rule of thumb that I sometimes break, I try not to dwell on my past but try to use it to change my future. Honestly, I simply hate making the same mistakes twice because I don’t want to face the consequences over and over.
My 20’s were filled with intense ambition to be a world-changer, find my voice, and fight for the respect of others so I could climb some imaginary ladder to who knows where. If I didn’t step up or change the world, who would? (Right.) My 30’s have caused me to re-define change, consider what my world really is, challenge the motives behind how and why I use my voice, and question why I need approval of others – which I don’t. Each year I have felt burdened to do fewer good things in order to focus on the great things. (Thank you, Jim Collins.) I was also faced with the truth that there’s always someone better than me, smarter than me, and more experienced than me so I needed to quit comparing and just be me. As I’m reaching the end of my 30’s, I’ve found myself with seemingly less time in a day, less energy to pursue the next best thing, and caring less about critical opinions, I’ve settled my heart on a few life changes that I need to make:
*I need to worry less about the dust bunnies under my sofa.
*I need to worry less about the noise level around me, especially if it’s a joyful and excited noise.
*I need to pick my battles more carefully.
*I need to hug all my boys (hubby included) more often.
*I need to set aside time to be creative. It energizes and feeds my soul.
*I need to walk through the store making eye contact and smiling more often. When I do, it’s amazing how many people smile back!
*I need to speak up against things that are not good, right, true, loving, honest, and empowering. People may be offended at my stance, regardless of how lovingly I address something, which is okay. It’s their choice. Rabbit trail warning: I honestly believe that people are too easily offended and seem to want to be offended with anyone different than themselves – especially on social media. Then they call those people close-minded, naive, or arrogant. I think that is a very close-minded, naive and arrogant way to view others who are just different than yourself.
*I need to guard my time better by saying ‘no’ more often. A ‘no’ is not a fun to give or receive but if I’m working on dissolving my people-pleasing tenancies, I have to get comfortable with my own ‘nos’.
*I need to exercise more.
*I need to rest more.
*I need to voice my dreams better. My tribe of friends and family can’t encourage or support me if I don’t share my heart.
*I need to fret less.
*I need to be less of a perfectionist and just do it!
It’s very possible that this is the list of a perfectionist who sets high expectations on herself. Or, it’s the list of a girl who never wants to stay the same year after year or even month after month. Or it’s the list of an ‘almost 40 year-old’ who simply welcomes the maturing and mellowing with age…. nah -it can’t be that! I know too many fruit loops in their 40’s who have the maturity of tree stumps so it has nothing to do with age… Or does it?
Regardless, I raise my glass and welcome the opportunities of 2017!