We love credit. When we work hard, even if the goal isn’t to impress or please, we do feel satisfaction when that hard work is recognized. In fact, pieces of our hearts begin to shrivel when we go without recognition for too long. Many of us can attest to this having worked in businesses, engaged in relationships, or participated in ongoing situations where accolades were distributed to others, over and over again, and we were passed over despite our contributions. Our hearts shrivel a bit, even if we know that our identity is not tied to the praises of others.
After experiencing this type of relational disconnect and hurt about ourselves should make it natural to give praise and credit to someone else. But it’s not. Not for some. Not for many.
We don’t have to be taught how to be mean, selfish, and prideful. We do have to be taught what genuine giving, caring, loving, and sharing look like from the time we’re toddlers because it’s hard to give to others what we desire most for ourselves.