We all have ideals. Ideals of how dramatically different our lives would look if we lost weight, found love, developed a discipline, slowed down, or learned a new skill. Ideals are fun to find, dust off a bit and put on display as our Christmas tree comes down each December, but before we know it, Spring rolls around and we need to change out the winter décor. The ideals get wrapped in tissue and stuffed back into a box.
The end of December marks a time for exploring ideals. We had a crappy year, we have crappy health, crappy friendships, a cluttered house, or a cluttered soul. We want change and become resolute! We will follow through this time…
Until we don’t.
Then our resolutions, much weightier than a mere ideal, are also wrapped in wrapped in tissue and carefully placed along side our ideals.
Life. Life happens. Resolutions fail because we don’t really believe we can or will succeed. Resolutions fail because we don’t gather others to help us succeed or our helpful others simply don’t want to nag. Resolutions fail because we forget who we are and who we want to become.
Resolutions are real. Resolutions can change us. To be resolute is to stand firm on a conviction or decision to change something in your life and, unfortunately, it doesn’t matter how many cheerleaders we gather around us, our resolution relies on us – the individual with the resolution.
No one else can make you develop better spiritual habits. No one else can force you to lose weight. No one else has the time to remind you 50 million times each day to do the thing that you need to do – to follow through on your resolution. No one else can nor should be the steward of your health, passions, goals, talents, or giftedness. That’s your job.
Don’t expect others to completely understand you or your reasons. In fact, you may be misunderstood if you follow through. You may be patronized a bit. You may receive some scorn from those that are jealous or dislike your resolution. Perhaps your resolution shines a light on their lack of resolution.
Whatever it is that will cause you to be less resolute – address it before it happens. Ignore naysayers. Plan your time wisely and then guard it. Set yourself up for success over and over and over and over.
You get to choose ahead of time if your resolution will succeed or fail. You get to choose if you will follow through or not. You get to choose a good answer for those who ask you about your resolution. It’s up to you.
Be resolute. You’ll thank yourself later.